Would be hilariously funny if .....
After many talks and the decision that The Silence made to have a no tolerance policy I thought we were on the right track. There was not going to be anymore confusion and inconsistencies because of this decision of no tolerance.
It lasted less than 24 hours.
I am frustrated, confused and p*****d.
And probably should not even be posting this.
Not in my present state of mind anyway. I have tried to ditch the implements, and he has put them back.
I have no idea where we go from here...none at all. I am not sure I can do this everyday, with not knowing proper boundaries, boundaries that change at the drop of a hat.
I am sorry that this is not a wonderful, inspiring post full of humour.
Oh Hez, I am so sorry that things have gone awry for you. Don't give up, try and remember how things were before you started down this path. Take each day as it comes. thinking of you, love jan.xxx
ReplyDeleteThanks Jan,
DeleteI am remembering..there can be no going back
Hugs
Oh babe
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry you're going through this. I wish I had some advise for you.
Ttwd is so complicated, the ups and downs are rough, just hang in there, I'm sure it will work out:)
Try and not push too many buttons and poke that bear, try to ease in to things, and take small steps, and if all else fails, get the paddle and go to him yourself.
Mr Silence, you really need to give her good spanking, before I have to come over and do it myself lol
Sorry not the best advise I've ever given, but then again if my advise was any good, I would use it myself ;)
Thanks Missy for the advice for The Silence which he did follow through with last night after our nearly three hour talk. Really, I don't push buttons...nope.....no buttons....
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:)
Oh no Hez,
ReplyDeleteHang in there. Take a deep breath.
Email me if you want to chat.
Callie
thnks Callie
DeleteI know that this is a journey, and it is going to take time. Sometimes I get tired of just hanging though. We will make it..I know we will as there is no other choice really. Going back to 'normal' scares the heck out of me!
Hugs
I'm going to leave a comment here so that you know we all still read when you are not yourself :). I know there is nothing to be said that is helpful sometimes. That sometimes it has to come from within- okay most times! Easier said than done when it feels like you have been off track more than on lately.
ReplyDeleteI will listen if you need to vent.
Big Hugs
love willie
Thanks Willie
DeleteI felt a little better after venting on here. I guess it was honest which is what I intended the blog to be...
Big Hugs right back at you
Don't apologize, no one expects you to put on a happy face if you're not feeling it. I'm sorry you're having a rough time, it has to be hard to walk the straight and narrow when the line keeps moving. Take a deep breath, collect your thoughts and calmly explain your need for him to be clear, concise and consistent with his expectations. Put it in a letter if that's easier. Good luck.
ReplyDeletethnks Mrs.D
DeleteWe talked for nearly three hours last night. Yet another long talk...Things will change, eventually and we will be on track. We are on the same page but at different ends of the paper I guess
Hugs
Hang in there Hez.
ReplyDeleteHey Susie,
DeleteHanging..still hanging :)
Hugs
I'm sorry Hez. It can be really hard to get things back on track sometimes. Just keep those lines of communication open, take one step at a time, and all that. Is that advice lame? lol Maybe I'll just offer a virtual hug instead:) ((HUG)) You guys will work this out!
ReplyDeleteHey Tess
DeleteThanks for your comment :) and your advice..any advice is good, never lame!
And I will take that virtual hug :)
Hugs
Live as if he were on board with the process. Be an adult and do the right thing and it will make you feel better and if and when he comes back on board, you will be ready.
ReplyDeleteHey Sunnygirl
DeleteHe is on board...we are just not on the same page..I think. We did talk about it last night..for a very long time.
OH Hez, I'm sorry that things are so hard. That's what makes it so hard to be the woman in the relationship. We don't get to set the pace, the punishments, the consistency, the follow through. I sometimes wonder if in our frustration on our spouses not stepping up, if there is a lesson of submission in there as well. :( I hope things look better soon! :) {{{HUGS}}}
ReplyDeleteIts k and we've all been there Hugs
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