Well for goodness sakes I never seem to be here any more. I have these great intentions of at least being here once or twice a week, then life happens and before I know it a few weeks, and sometimes more has gone past.
I don't know how many times I have needed to blog since my last one...I lost count long ago.
Life seems to be charging ahead and most of the time I am either rushing from one thing to another or to darn tired to even turn the laptop on.
So many things have changed....
The Silence stepped up ttwd...like really stepped up! There were days that I seem to be forever standing in the laundry...right up until he worked out that when I disappeared for any amount of time our teenage, soon to be 18 year old daughter got suspicious and kept asking where I was.
Then she would come looking for me.....which caused a few heart stopping moments with trying to explain why I was laying on the bed writing in a book or standing in the laundry gazing mindlessly at the wall. Mind you, it did make the time go faster when I was there to 'just calm down' on the other hand while writing an essay (by hand ...not typed..which really, really sucks by the way) it made the time seem longer.
There are no 'grey areas' in our lives any more. They have gone. Basically what The Silence says is what goes. If he does not like what I am doing, then he says so, the next time it is dealt with.
We found the grey areas were hard for him to deal with. With them now gone, our DD life is running smoother. The first week or so, I was on tenterhooks with what I said and did...it did not take long to get back into my normal..ahem....submissive/obedient side.....
There is now absolutely no 'NO's' for anything. Does not matter what it is, the answer is not to be No. Did you know that you can replace No with 'Why' 'How' 'Maybe' 'Now?' 'Can I' 'May I' and 'Yes Dear'?
He mentioned the other night that maybe the introduction of 'Yes Sir' during discipline times might be on the cards in future too....
So our house is on the market and we have had some open homes... and a few hair raising moments of wondering 'oh my gosh did we put that away' or 'I sure hope the tool box is covered in the bottom of our wardrobe' which is where the implements are kept... Lets face it..how many people keep a wooden spoon, a spatula, a cake icing spreader (gee thanks Willie) and a cane in their wardrobe...not to mention a few other items purloined from the kitchen. And how does one explain a Loopy Johnny? or a Tawse.....
Our room when we pack up to move will be one room that no one will be helping with!!!
It is quite funny when we are looking at house to buy..our first thought is 'Will anyone be able to hear us/see us'?
Well, must move on with the day and get that blasted list finished..I know, not much of a blog, but I did want you to know that we are still alive and kicking..well, perhaps not so much the kicking!
Hugs and may your day be spank free!
OH NO YOU DIDN'T just 'blame' me for something you ASKED for! Ours made it BACK into the kitchen and is used to stir juice ( yes decline any juice based drinks in our house~ lol).
ReplyDeleteHappy that you are in a place that feels right for you now. See next month you can tell us where you came from and where you are now with your 1 year anniversary...And by the looks of it, it will be the next time we hear from you!
HRMPH!
love ya,
willie
Hey Willie
DeleteI don't think ours will ever make it to the kitchen! He is fond of it far to much to be giving that up!! Hopefully will be back here sooner than a month from now...unless we sell the house, in which case I will be packing and probably over the bed even more with the stress.
Love ya too
Hezishis
Good luck with the house selling and buying Hez!!
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Thanks Callie
DeleteHoping for a quick sale!
Hez
Hi Hez! Glad to see you among the land of the living...and lol...the well spanked.
ReplyDeleteHey Susie
Delete'the well spanked'...yep, certainly that on some days!
Hez
Hi Hez, am glad you are back and that dd is going well. We too worry about the implements being found, We are going on holiday shortly and our son is moving back (for the cat). The toys are going in the loft!! paranoid ? maybe...
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Hey Jan
DeleteI don't think we can ever be 'paranoid' I cannot imagine trying to explain things to others that might find them in the house!
Hope you have a great holiday (and spank free?)
Hugs
Steve isn't a fan of the word "No" either. It nearly always gets me spanked. I've probably got more spankings over that word than anything else I've done (or not done) since we started TTWD. The only acceptable uses are "No, I did not forget to do my chores today." or "No, the store was out of your drinks."
ReplyDeleteI had to smile at your comment about would anyone be able to see or hear you in the new house. We were talking about getting a repair loan on one of the houses we looked at and I was trying to figure out how to talk the underwriter into including soundproofing our bedroom in our repair budget.
Hey Dana
DeleteStill learning about the 'No' I am afraid that I am not exactly the perfect angel when it comes to changing that one word!
LOL to the soundproofing! That was one of our options when we were deciding about selling or not. We do have enough room in the basement garage to be able to do that....but then thought how we would go about explaining that to anyone :)
So we are now looking for a house that has all the bedrooms either downstairs and ours upstairs, or far enough away from ours to keep some noise at bay
Yes, read a post a few months ago from someone pregnant whose friends came over to help them pack. They forgot about the implements until the friends had finished. hhehe It was a cute post. Glad that you and the Silence have found what works for you, the Duke and I are finding some of the same things... so if the no NO rule ever comes up, I'm going to have to remember the whys, how, may I's. ;)
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DeleteI cannot imagine the thought of having to face those friends again!!!!
If the No word ever comes up..don't forget the 'yes dear' :)
Hugs
Sounds like things are going well Hez! Good luck with the whole moving process! :)
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