Friday, 22 February 2013

The Possibilities are Endless


Would be hilariously funny if .....

After many talks and the decision that The Silence made to have a no tolerance policy I thought we were on the right track. There was not going to be anymore confusion and inconsistencies because of this decision of no tolerance.

It lasted less than 24 hours.

I am frustrated, confused and p*****d.

And probably should not even be posting this.

Not in my present state of mind anyway. I have tried to ditch the implements, and he has put them back. 

I have no idea where we go from here...none at all. I am not sure I can do this everyday, with not knowing proper boundaries, boundaries that change at the drop of a hat.

I am sorry that this is not a wonderful, inspiring post full of humour.
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18 comments:

  1. an English Rose22 February 2013 at 19:53

    Oh Hez, I am so sorry that things have gone awry for you. Don't give up, try and remember how things were before you started down this path. Take each day as it comes. thinking of you, love jan.xxx

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    1. Hez23 February 2013 at 06:38

      Thanks Jan,

      I am remembering..there can be no going back

      Hugs

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  2. Anonymous22 February 2013 at 20:01

    Oh babe
    I'm so sorry you're going through this. I wish I had some advise for you.

    Ttwd is so complicated, the ups and downs are rough, just hang in there, I'm sure it will work out:)

    Try and not push too many buttons and poke that bear, try to ease in to things, and take small steps, and if all else fails, get the paddle and go to him yourself.

    Mr Silence, you really need to give her good spanking, before I have to come over and do it myself lol

    Sorry not the best advise I've ever given, but then again if my advise was any good, I would use it myself ;)

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    1. Hez23 February 2013 at 06:53

      Thanks Missy for the advice for The Silence which he did follow through with last night after our nearly three hour talk. Really, I don't push buttons...nope.....no buttons....
      Hugs
      :)

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  3. Callie22 February 2013 at 20:54

    Oh no Hez,
    Hang in there. Take a deep breath.
    Email me if you want to chat.

    Callie

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    1. Hez23 February 2013 at 07:03

      thnks Callie

      I know that this is a journey, and it is going to take time. Sometimes I get tired of just hanging though. We will make it..I know we will as there is no other choice really. Going back to 'normal' scares the heck out of me!

      Hugs

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  4. willie22 February 2013 at 22:19

    I'm going to leave a comment here so that you know we all still read when you are not yourself :). I know there is nothing to be said that is helpful sometimes. That sometimes it has to come from within- okay most times! Easier said than done when it feels like you have been off track more than on lately.
    I will listen if you need to vent.

    Big Hugs
    love willie

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    1. Hez23 February 2013 at 07:05

      Thanks Willie

      I felt a little better after venting on here. I guess it was honest which is what I intended the blog to be...

      Big Hugs right back at you

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  5. Mrs. D22 February 2013 at 22:40

    Don't apologize, no one expects you to put on a happy face if you're not feeling it. I'm sorry you're having a rough time, it has to be hard to walk the straight and narrow when the line keeps moving. Take a deep breath, collect your thoughts and calmly explain your need for him to be clear, concise and consistent with his expectations. Put it in a letter if that's easier. Good luck.

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    1. Hez23 February 2013 at 07:14

      thnks Mrs.D

      We talked for nearly three hours last night. Yet another long talk...Things will change, eventually and we will be on track. We are on the same page but at different ends of the paper I guess

      Hugs

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  6. Susie22 February 2013 at 22:43

    Hang in there Hez.

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    1. Hez23 February 2013 at 07:17

      Hey Susie,

      Hanging..still hanging :)

      Hugs

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  7. Tess23 February 2013 at 00:13

    I'm sorry Hez. It can be really hard to get things back on track sometimes. Just keep those lines of communication open, take one step at a time, and all that. Is that advice lame? lol Maybe I'll just offer a virtual hug instead:) ((HUG)) You guys will work this out!

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    1. Hez23 February 2013 at 07:37

      Hey Tess

      Thanks for your comment :) and your advice..any advice is good, never lame!
      And I will take that virtual hug :)
      Hugs

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  8. Aimless Rambling23 February 2013 at 01:56

    Live as if he were on board with the process. Be an adult and do the right thing and it will make you feel better and if and when he comes back on board, you will be ready.

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    1. Hez23 February 2013 at 07:38

      Hey Sunnygirl

      He is on board...we are just not on the same page..I think. We did talk about it last night..for a very long time.

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  9. Es May24 February 2013 at 10:55

    OH Hez, I'm sorry that things are so hard. That's what makes it so hard to be the woman in the relationship. We don't get to set the pace, the punishments, the consistency, the follow through. I sometimes wonder if in our frustration on our spouses not stepping up, if there is a lesson of submission in there as well. :( I hope things look better soon! :) {{{HUGS}}}

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  10. Anonymous25 February 2013 at 11:55

    Its k and we've all been there Hugs

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