I blame the air...or I would if we all lived in the same country. Maybe it is the moon, or the tides, or is it just the natural progression of our emotions.
Happy, sad, joyful, angry, disappointed, frayed, excited, upset, helpless, powerless, trusting, amused, delighted, grumpy, tender, shocked, insecure, scared, worried, restless, loved, aroused, hopeful, safe...oh the list could go and on.
There are many words that describe emotions, and I think at some stage we use every single one of them in our lives with Dd/Ttwd. Sometimes they are intensified because of the way we have chosen to live our lives.
Our emotions sometimes render us powerless in the face of confrontation. We know what we want to say, what we want to do....but in many of our households it is a written, or unwritten rule not to let those emotions go to the point that it can cause pain, not only to your relationship but also to your derrière.
Emotions are the cause of conflict..either with another person, or within ourselves. More often than not...it is these emotions within myself that causes the most problems.
Sometimes we need to step back an examine the 'why' of our emotions. Something that I need to learn to do, instead of just letting go and aiming them in the general direction of the HoH..which usually results in being over the knee, over the bed, or over something :)
I need to learn to do this:
Sometimes I need this many.....
And then I might need yet another reminder to stop.....
And at that point.....well really...my emotions are so far gone that STOPPING is just not going to happen
And then I realise that perhaps I have just gone the
That is what emotions do...they often take the wrong way. Yet it is (I suppose) easy enough to stop and think before all is let loose.
Except.....I am a woman. I am me.
Apparently woman think with their emotions.
So where to from here...well this is where I am suppose to come up with some bright idea that apparently is going to solve all these emotional roller coasters that we seem to travel on at the same time...hmmmmm....
Nope...sorry not going to happen. I can only work on solving my own rebellious and sometimes rampant emotions (like..you know...at that 'time')
1). I have to stop and think.
Are my emotions getting out of control (usually the answer is ....yes) and if so, it is time to slow down, take some time out to sort out whatever it is that is going on. Otherwise the potential to lose control is just around the corner from the next emotional outburst.
I need to stop and recognise the signs. Not the stop signs, but the signs that trigger an outburst.
2) Reduce or remove myself from the trigger that caused the emotion in the first place.
Okay, so sometimes easier said than done...what if it is the HoH that is the trigger. Does the rule of not walking away still come into play if I am removing myself from the 'trigger'?
So this is the time when I am supposed to step back, breathe (and probably breathe a whole lot more)
3) Processing your thoughts and turning your emotions into a positive and not a negative reaction.
I feel like laughing here...really I do.....
Because either way, if I have finally got to this stage, somewhere along the line there has probably been a spanking. So I am now positively positive that processing your thoughts while over the bed is a good place to finally end up if you have, which in my case is usually true, skipped steps 1 and 2.
Hugs and may you have a spank free day