Yep, it is summer time and I have the flu...seriously? It is summertime! Who gets the flu in summer? April through to October is Flu season!
I should of known...I always get grumpy...er, a day or two before I actually get sick. It is like a warning sign that I constantly ignore. Though this time I did mention to The Silence that I felt like I was PMS'ing and I should not of been. Never even crossed my mind that I was getting sick.
The weekend was not a good one, with Distancing Daisy parking up on our front lawn and moving in on Saturday afternoon.
I have not distanced for a long time, so I think she should of just kept on driving past and found somewhere else.
It was over a point that I though made perfect sense:
That sometimes, when The Silence is wrong (or I perceive that he is wrong) he appears to put the blame and everything else back onto me.
And in some cases he is right to do so.
But I hate excuses. Don't stand there and try and back peddle to dig yourself out of a hole that you have dug yourself.
Anyway, we sorted that one, by me saying that he has every right to change his mind as Hoh, and that is fine, but don't hand out excuses, just say
'As Hoh we are doing it this way' or that way, or whatever way you like...just don't make excuses.
That is what caused the distancing this time around..and to be honest, the feeling of loss of control over situations too.
I thought I was past that stage of thinking about control. Obviously not :(
In some ways, because of what I say and do when it comes to some issues, I am still very much in control, and when The Silence changes his mind etc, then I find myself struggling to maintain that control. Suddenly, I do not have it anymore.
|Pretty isn't it? The nasty little thing it is.....|
I guess eventually control will lost the battle and I will be the submissive, obedient wife...oneday :)
Pity like this natural remedy for the flu that there was not one for distancing and control
(Please forgive me if this post does not make sense, has missing words or spelling mistakes. Brain is very much not working today at all, and I am starting to wonder if it ever will again)
Hugs, and may you all catch that dangling carrot, and be spank free