Tuesday 8 January 2013

BC - Day One and Two



A good friend said to me this morning when I asked them how they were:

'Fine, but I am not the one up boot camp river with 2 new paddles'


Which made me laugh as one new paddle is longer than the other..which means I would be paddling in circles!




 To which the reply was:

'well if I was in the boat with you we'd be moving!  because I would require the shorter paddle

AND because I'd be paddling like hell to get away from a paddling!'



So good to have such great supportive friends in blog land :)


So...Day one ended with a bedroom spanking for being sassy sassy. Not quite what I had in mind when we finally went to bed :(

We both survived day one, with each of us learning more about each other. Each day there are four compulsory homework assignments that deal with different issues. It is a great way to communicate.

Our first assignment was going over the rules on day one. The Silence decided that we would do it like a mind map. So much better than just reading from a list. It put things in more perspective when making a 'tree' of the rules and how quite a few of the rules actually relate to each other.


Basically, where possible we have been doing the assignments this way, instead of just writing a page together. It is more fun to do them like this, than sitting down and writing page each on the when, why, how.

The Silence starts off great in the morning, and though he is getting stubborn better at picking things up, seems to slacken off towards the afternoon. Of course I take advantage point this out to him.....eventually.

We have decided to get a hobby that we can do together. So far we have come up with building a sports car...on the cheap, and not much else.
So if anyone has any ideas on what sort of hobbies wife and Hoh can do together, I would appreciate them.

(Preferably ones that will not bring on frustration, sassy-ness, disrespectful-ness, ..well, you know the list)

He did come up with this idea:

 And decided it would not be a good one

The first day I cried...a lot. I cannot believe one can have so many tears inside. Not just because of the compulsory spankings, but because of the loss of control, not being able to control anything, in any way at all.

And I don't cry....ever! Well, I have cried a little bit since starting ttwd...stupid emotions
It was not a good feeling, knowing that someone else was in control.

Yesterday (day two) I took back some of that control. I did not cry..oh, a few tears here and there, but other than that, nothing. My mantra, if that is what you want to call it was 'don't cry, don't cry, you are not going to cry'

Why? I hear you ask.

No idea, other than I think it was a desperate attempt at controlling something tangible. I have no idea how today (day three) is going to go. And no idea whether The Silence will decide to have a day four/five.

Today, if all goes well could be the last day of BC.

(I just had a look at a preview of this post, it is coming up all screwy, no idea why though. Hoping that it posts properly)































19 comments:

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    1. thanks Elle :) Hugs right back at you!

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    1. ahhh no :( but a long story, so will, when I am allowed on here (which is not now..shhh) post a blog :)

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  3. Good luck M3, I'm glad to hear its going well so far. Where did you get your boot camp guidelines? Or did you write your own?

    Callie

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    1. Hi Callie..Hope you are still enjoying your holiday :)

      We did buy a book, but have sort of made it 'ours' and adjusted some things. When I am 'allowed' back on here I will post a blog :)

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  4. (((hugs))) the tears are good, sweetie, if they want to come, don't hold them back. Stripping down and becoming vulnerable is hard work.

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    1. Thanks June :) That is it isn't it...becoming vulnerable :)

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  5. Just wanted to send you my support and hope this is the last day. X

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    1. Thanks Mustbecrazy for your support, much appreciated and thank you for commenting too.

      And no this is not the last day...by mutual agreement (this time) we have decided to carry on a few more days.

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  6. Just wanted to send you my support and hope this is the last day. X

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  7. Hi there, just saying a together hobby -ballroom dancing!! I know not for everyone but I am a dance teacher, and its a great way to get close. Mind you I have noticed since we stared ttwd that some of my couples are not together in ANYWAY. I find myself thinking for gods sake she needs a spanking and omg get a grip man and stop being such a drip. The hard thing is not teaching them, its keeping quiet!! Good luck with boot camp, it doesn't sound like my cup of tea and he knows nothing about it and isn't going to either, love Jan.x

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    1. Hi Jan,

      Thank you for commenting. We did do ballroom dancing a loonnnggg time ago. Yes, we could take that up again :)

      I understand about the watching and thinking about other couples..and find myself thinking that, that wife needs a darn good spanking! Oh and having to keep quiet..that is soooo hard when you want to hand the husband a wooden spoon, tell them what it is for and lead them to an empty room so he can deal with his wife!

      Hugs Jan :)

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  8. I second dancing as an activity to do together. Swing, hustle, salsa ... he leads and you follow. It's fun and sexy. Lots of double entendre comments. Check your local adult ed catalog, some even have classes on Saturday nights.

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    1. Hi Meg, fun and sexy sounds good :) Will check the local classes, especially for Saturday nights.

      Thanks for commenting :)

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  9. Catching up here...but it sounds like things are going well. Hang in there M3.

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  10. im glad my Master wouldnt want to do a boot camp

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    1. Hi trazuredpet

      The Hoh never wanted to do boot camp either... then he changed his mind!

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